This page is dedicated to all Native Adoptees of the First Nations.

  Our journeys took differing directions, but our destinations are similar.  The way back to the Red Road was lost for many, found by some and still beckons to others.

May all your journeys be safe.   May you find peace in your exploration.

 May you walk prouder each and every day.

 

 


 

 

 

 

 

Adopted individuals carry sentiments which only another adoptee could appreciate.  Regardless of how much love and attention which these people may or may not have experienced in their childhood, questions remain.

Fundamental knowledge is withheld for a variety of reasons; some valid and some unjustified.  The attitudes toward the rights of these adopted people are changing and more information is being released upon request. 

Still, many searching adoptees are strongly criticized for their desire to answer basic questions.  "A slap in the face of people who raised you".  "Ingrate".  "Selfish".

Totally inappropriate responses to a very natural curiosity.  These attitudes completely ignore and disregard any quest for self-esteem and -identity.  These remarks are callous, rude and are based more on selfish observations than any sort of personal fact.

Denying an individual the most basic right to determine "Who am I" is barbaric and unconscionable... regardless of the circumstances surrounding their birth.  Bringing a life into the world carries responsibilities which aren't simply ended upon surrendering the child.... willingly or not.

People shouldn't be forced to carry the stigma of being a 'mistake' throughout their lives...  every child born has an inherent right to be wanted as well as an answer as to why they weren't.  A guilt trip is not the intention; finding closure and peace of mind is.

Not all adoptees are interested in the details surrounding their birth and that's very much a personal decision I can respect.  Confronting a past is not always easy or comfortable but when 'memories' are given more respect than an individual, the sanctity of life is diminished greatly.

Ultimately after all the suggestions, recommendations and warnings are shoved to the side, it's up to the adoptee to answer the question, "Why am I doing this?"


            A Poem from a Friend           


  ' Spiritual Messenger ' -  M. Noel  ( AllPosters.com )

The stories vary greatly.  Some First Nations adoptees were raised in loving nurturing families; others were shuttled between homes much as a used piece of furniture... and were treated with the same regard.

Yet among the stories is a consistent common thread.  A need to go somewhere... some restless urging to... return somewhere.   Not necessarily to a place, per se... but to a state of being.

(Drop that one on a non-Native guidance counsellor and watch how fast a psychologist is called.  Now even more self-defeating labels are attached.)

"Even you own mother didn't want you."  "We should have left you where we found you."  "I gave you up for a reason and you're not to come around here anymore."

Words that club, tear at the spirit and would shred any semblance of self-esteem from even the most hardened of individuals.

Fear, rejection and alienation are the most often heard descriptions of emotions from Native Adoptees.  The superficial urging to 'be more like us' while ignoring or ridiculing the very essence of what it means to be Aboriginal.  An emptiness and solitude  from being surrounded by non-Native people and personas who don't have a clue what  'an Aboriginal view of the world' either means or is like.


     'Keeper 'N Me'  - by Richard Wagamese - Highly Recommended!   


Yet the indefatigable spirit of that special need to return is never silenced... merely buried under more layers and façades crafted as defences until it can no longer be hidden by self-inflicted or external abuse. Then it leaps prominently to the surface...

...determined, defiant and unwavering. 

The rebirth of the Native.

The Return of the Native.

My search ended with tremendous joy and satisfaction for everybody involved.  Not every search ends as happily and that was a very real possibility I was prepared to accept.

Rejection... or even worse, indifference... is the unfortunate result for many.  

Their courage and efforts are not in vain; the search itself is a self-affirming process.

And self-affirmation is a very human need which exists in us all.


The following links are from the perspective of the adoptee;  thoughts, anxieties, adoptee rights... and reason to hope. 

There are more than enough resources available for adoptive parents.

·Adoption Rights, Advocacy and Support·

 

· Personal Sites ·

 

  Connecting With All My Relations Six Nations Adoptees
Advocacy for Native Adoptees The Native Adoptee
Stolen Generations  
Voices From The Borderlands - TransRacial Adoptees Snoopy Dude
  Lori Pringle's Adoption Page
Cross Cultural Families of Native Children NOANASA
Federation of Aboriginal Foster Parents SkyAtDawn's Adoption Links
CANADopt Homepage Butterbox Babies

Bastard Nation - Canada

Natalie's Page
Bastard Nation Michelle's Adoption and Me
The Adoption Ring ABORN's Gen Goad's page
Adoption Triad Outreach Congratulations, Sean and Marilyn !!
World's Largest Adoptee Related Link Page Who Are You? Ray Butler's Adoptee Profile & Resources
Owen's Quick-Link Adoptee Resources Fay Rath's Adoption Roots and Rights
ABORN  
Adoptees' Caucus for Truth (ACT)  
AbolishAdoption.com  
The Center for Adoptee Rights  
Adoptee Birthfamilies Connections  
  ' Gatekeeper '  -  David Atkins  ( AllPosters.com )      Artist : Joe Greene  ( Quest Gallery, Banff AB website )          ' All My Relations '  -  Kevin Pee-ace , YellowQuill First Nation  SK